Sunday 25 December 2011

Who's Knocking Your Confidence?

One of my clients, I'll call her Karen (but that's not her real name), told me about a situation that's knocking her confidence. Every day when she gets to work one of her colleagues makes an unkind remark about Citrix 1Y0-A16 question Karen's appearance. It's either about her hair, her make-up, what she's got on... you get the picture!
When she told me about it Karen said she laughed the comments off. But inside she felt embarrassed because her other colleagues were starting to laugh too. Karen told me that the constant remarks were knocking her confidence. Although she felt upset about it, she didn't know how to handle the situation.
Through coaching I helped Karen to handle what was happening to her and the unkind comments have stopped.
Questions & tips to help you:
If someone's knocking your confidence, here's some questions and tips to help you handle what's happening:
Is it happening to others too, or are you being singled out?
If it's happening to others as well, can you discuss it with them and decide together what you want to do?
If it's just you, what do you feel comfortable about doing?
How about saying something to the other person?
You may prefer to deal Citrix 1Y0-A17 question with it in a humorous way.
Think of comments you can use and practice saying them - you'll be prepared for the next time it happens.
Talk to the person. Let them know how their comments are making you feel and ask them to stop.
If it's happening at work and you've tried all of the above and it doesn't stop, let your manager know. If it's your manager who's upsetting you get help from your Human Resources or Personnel Office or your manager's boss.
If it's happening at home, is there someone you can confide in who can help you? Perhaps they can talk to the other person for you.

Boosting your self-confidence
Only you can decide how you want to handle your situation. Remember that letting someone know that they're upsetting you is okay! They probably don't realise the impact they're having on you.
This is especially true if like Karen you tend to laugh the remarks off. When the person realises that they've upset you they'll usually apologise and stop doing it.
It's 250-300 much better for your self-confidence to speak up for yourself. You'll reap the benefits because people will respect you for it.
And it's much better than bottling all your feelings up inside and letting someone knock your self-confidence!

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